Friendships define you | #64
The biggest myth about friendship
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Apologies the newsletter is late. I have been struggling to manage my time recently due to a heavy workload. It’s a little harder to manage work, time and content. But I thought let’s write this newsletter in the evening and post it. Better late than breaking consistency.
I was always told by my dad that keep the friendships I made in childhood forever. Don’t break it. I changed 6 schools in my life and I got to make a lot of friends. But how hard I tried, the friendships between my school friends didn’t last long. I couldn’t connect to my school friends as I wanted to do something different from academics.
Till 6th class, I scored more than 90%. But after 6’th, my marks started going down and started failing internal exams. However, I always managed to (just) pass the final exams. That created a bigger boundary between me and my friends. Till my 10th class, I had just 1 friend with whom I talked regularly.
But when my 10th started, Corona pandemic started. I am part of the famous batch whose 10th board exams got cancelled. That same year, I discovered the power of Twitter and the Internet. It changed my life. For the first time, I was relieved that I found my tribe or friends on Twitter. I made amazing friends in the last 3 years on the internet. They were able to understand my creative mind. I also found some amazing online communities.
The constant change in school and friends taught me a lot. In the new school, I always had to introduce myself to strangers. So that taught me to talk to strangers. Today I don’t hesitate to ask for help from strangers or tell them something. Second, I learnt to say no. There were things my friends told me to do or some invited me to parties or any event, but since I felt I am not part of the group, I said no. I think that helped me today I don’t hesitate to say no and that’s the best thing that has happened to me.
Today I realise and many people talk about it that it’s okay if you have to lose your friendship. It’s okay if you have to end your school friendships if you have grown and your friends didn’t. If your friends are pulling you down, leave them. Understand this, there’s a difference between criticism and feedback. I wrote about the difference between feedback and criticism last year. You can read it here.
So this is the myth I am talking about. Friendships die. I found my tribe on the internet. For you, it might be different.
Last year September I wrote about the communities I am part of. You can read it here. But a special mention to the Fueler community because there are amazing youngsters in the community taking opportunities with the help of Proof of Work. It’s one of the best communities for youngsters who want to make themself grow big in life. Fueler is founded by Riten Debnath. I have spoken a lot about him here. Click here to join the community.
Self-Plugin
Last week I posted a video about how inspiration is useless unless you take an action on it.
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Watch
Sharuk Khan is an amazing human. His journey has been phenomenal and the hard work he has done is unbelievable. Here’s a glimpse of his life in an interview
Harsh is one of my friends I found on Twitter. He is doing great things and making really amazing content. See his videos, it’s full of inspiration and knowledge.
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Pranav ✌️
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I’m one of those for whom it turned out to be different- but I too have made friends in this phase of life, not prior to it, so I do see where you’re coming from. Loved the newsletter, Pranav. Just wanted to drop in and let you know I read each one of your newsletters and you’re doing amazing. It’s quite a feat to acquire such a following in a short span of time. Happy and honoured to be friends with ya!
P.S: my blogging community went down because of deficits and the team feeing like the plummet in quality and their vision wasn’t a great going for the site but they didn’t have the funds to fix the same over time- they used to pay content creators generously so people exploited their kindness. It sucks, but hey, it is what it is. The community served its purpose anyway- the relations and friends I’ve made there are some of the most beautiful ones ever. Why am I telling you all this? :) Because within a week or two you’ll probably see me around here.
So, I just wanted to drop a note expressing my gratitude to you for inspiring me. You make a difference.
Have a great week, Pranav. That’s all.
(P.S I’m in the midst of my boards)
‘Inspiration is useless without action’ - I agree . I believe that successful events have 2 parts that compose them, first is the feminine receptive energy that is inspired by outward circumstances and listens, analyses patiently and reaches a common ground for all the stakeholders affected by the event. Second, and to complete the circle is the male energy that employs force and sets events into motion. Both energies are dependant on each other and should be used in the correct order. This is what I would like to share 😊 Good day .